She's a Keeper

"If nothing ever changed, there'd be no butterflies."  Anonymous

     Even though I'm a sentimentalist, I happen to be in favor of change.  It's invigorating; it renews perspective.  It keeps the mind and spirit alive and free.  Rivers are ever-running, brooks are ever-winding.  If the flow of water stopped, the once bubbly, life-giving pool would become stagnant and deadly.

     So many things can bring about change, not only in the physical sense.  A new perspective can change one's mentality.  A new discovery can refresh the soul.

"The birds are molting.  If only man could molt also- his mind once a year its errors, his heart once a year its useless passions."  James Allen

     Change must be scrutinized and measured against Biblical standards in order to be accepted.  Conforming to the world's standards will never bring about a change for the better, though it may be initially sweet.  For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.  

"And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God."  Romans 12:2

     Are we sure to measure our actions, our speech, and our lives in order to prove the perfect will of God?  He has a design for all of mankind... men, women, and children.  Sons and daughters.  Are we following His plan?  Or are we following the world's design for successful individuals, desiring to fit in?

     One observation I found to be a rather interesting perspective on men and women's roles is an excerpt from Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkins' book entitled So Much More:  

"Throughout history, men have had to bear only the curse God gave directly to them.  They work hard to provide for and protect their families.  They don't bear children.  In our society, women are freely embracing a double curse- the curse of the man (difficulty in providing) in addition to the curse of the woman (pain in childbirth)."

     Titus 2:3-5 teaches that "the aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becomes holiness... teachers of good things.  That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed."  It also puts responsibility on the church to provide for those women who haven't a man to provide for them and children who haven't a father.  The church, however, has a duty to exercise wisdom when giving aid, and must only help those who have "proven themselves obedient to God's standards".

     The Bible is our map, not only for salvation, but for every aspect of living.  God's design cannot be improved upon, and only when we embrace His will without bitterness can we find contentment in change.  It's difficult swimming against the current of modern life.  It's hard to lead a completely set apart lifestyle.  

     Being a "keeper at home" is not only for married women, but for the single young women.  I highly recommend reading So Much More by Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin.  They expound on this subject specifically, and it's not binding, as one might think, but liberating in the knowledge of how we, as women, are created to be a helpmeet and keeper at home.

"God, grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one that I can, and the wisdom to know it's me."  Anonymous

Musings by h. rae


  1. This was WONDERFUL and oh so timely! I love the passage you quoted. God bless all women whoa re defying society's norms. And may He impress upon the scoffers, the importance of living a God-led life.

  2. I love So Much More! I first read it as a very young teenage and it has been hugely influential in shaping the way I think about singleness today.

    Another good one is Joyfully at Home by Jasmine Baucham.


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